In the first part of this series, we introduced the silent epidemic of teenage bullying and abuse, the wounds that go unnoticed, the unheard cries. Now, let’s take a closer look at the hidden turmoil victims endure and the psychological battle they fight every day. Behind the Mask: The Hidden Struggles of a Victim Imagine walking through the school corridors, dreading every step, knowing the turn could bring a new torment. For many teenagers, this is not just a fear, it’s their reality. Every word, every stare, and every whisper feels like a dagger, slowly cutting away at their self-esteem. They wear a mask of normalcy, laughing at jokes, nodding in class, and smiling at home. But behind that mask, there’s pain, anxiety, and a deep sense of loneliness. Bullying doesn’t always happen in obvious ways. A group of classmates laughing while looking at their phones could mean that another cruel joke has been made at someone’s expense. A sudden silence when a particular student walks into the room may signal exclusion. A teenager sitting alone at lunch, eyes fixed on their untouched tray, may not be hungry but rather too broken to eat. The Psychological Wounds: A Battle No One Sees Unlike a visible injury, the wounds of bullying and abuse run deeper, affecting the very core of a victim’s mental well-being. These emotional scars manifest in various ways: For some, these emotions spiral into more dangerous territories—self-harm, substance abuse, or even suicidal thoughts. What begins as “harmless teasing” can evolve into a psychological war with devastating consequences. The Role of Technology: A New Age of Abuse In today’s digital world, bullying doesn’t end at the school gates. It follows teenagers home through social media, messaging apps, and online platforms. Cyberbullying has given tormentors a new, faceless weapon one that never lets the victim escape. A single humiliating post, an edited picture, or a cruel message can spread within seconds, making a teenager’s life unbearable. The internet, which should be a space of learning and connection, becomes a nightmare where abuse is 24/7, leaving no safe space for escape. Breaking the Silence: The First Step to Healing The most dangerous part of abuse is the silence it enforces. But change begins with awareness. Here’s how we can support victims and take the first steps toward healing: What’s Next? In the next part of this series, we will explore how parents, teachers, and peers can become pillars of support. We will also discuss strategies for rebuilding the self-worth of victims and creating a future where no teenager has to suffer in silence. The fight against teenage abuse is not just about identifying the problem, it’s about taking action. Together, we can ensure the voice doesn’t go unheard and no cry is left unanswered. Keep reading foramz for your daily dose of emotional support,
Written by Ananya
While the struggles of single fathers often revolve around societal expectations and work-life balance, there are also deeply ingrained stereotypes that many people fail to acknowledge. These stereotypes not only shape how society perceives single fathers but also influence how they see themselves. Unlike the more commonly discussed financial and emotional challenges, these biases create additional hurdles that can make single parenting even more isolating. Two of the most overlooked yet damaging stereotypes are the assumption that men are less competent caregivers and the stigma that single fathers must have “failed” in some way to end up parenting alone. The “Incompetent Dad” Stereotype: The Doubt in a Father’s Ability One of the most frustrating stereotypes single fathers face is the belief that men are inherently less capable of raising children. Society often portrays fathers as the “backup parent,” someone who steps in only when the mother is unavailable. This stereotype is reinforced by media, where dads are frequently depicted as clueless, struggling to make a simple meal, or completely out of their depth when it comes to emotional caregiving. For single fathers, this stereotype can translate into real-world struggles. They may encounter skepticism from doctors, teachers, or even other parents who assume they don’t know what they’re doing. A father taking his child to a doctor’s appointment may be asked, “Where’s the mother?” as if his presence alone is insufficient. A dad attending a parent-teacher conference might feel as though the teacher assumes he lacks understanding of his child’s education. These moments reinforce the idea that parenting is still viewed as a mother’s domain and that a father raising a child alone is unnatural or inadequate. This bias can also seep into everyday interactions. Fathers might receive excessive praise for performing basic parental duties, something that would go unnoticed if done by a mother. For example, a dad shopping for groceries with his child might be told, “Wow, you’re such a great dad for doing this,” implying that basic caregiving tasks are exceptional for men but expected for women. While the intention behind such comments may not be malicious, they highlight the deep-rooted belief that fathers are less competent caregivers. This stereotype can be particularly damaging when fathers internalize it. A single dad who constantly hears that men aren’t naturally good at nurturing may start to doubt his parenting abilities. He might hesitate to comfort his child during an emotional moment, feeling like he’s not “wired” to provide that kind of support. Over time, this can create unnecessary self-doubt and prevent fathers from fully embracing their role as both caregiver and provider. The Stigma of “The Failed Man”: Assumptions About Why He’s a Single Father Another stereotype that is rarely discussed is the assumption that a single father must have “failed” in some way. Unlike single mothers, who are often met with sympathy and support, single fathers can face suspicion about why they are raising children alone. Society tends to assume that if a father has sole custody of his child, it must be because something went wrong; either he was irresponsible in the past or the mother was deemed unfit. Some people assume the father must have been a “bad husband” or partner, leading to the breakdown of his relationship. Others believe he must have won custody out of spite or through legal loopholes rather than because he is the best choice for his child. This assumption can be particularly harsh on widowed fathers. A man who loses his spouse is often expected to remarry quickly because the idea of him raising children alone seems unnatural. Instead of receiving the same emotional support that a widowed mother might, a father in this situation might be encouraged to find a new mother figure for his kids, as if he alone is not enough. Even in cases of divorce, fathers often feel the need to constantly prove that they are capable of being a primary parent. If a mother loses custody, people may assume there must have been extreme circumstances involved, while a father gaining custody can sometimes lead to speculation that he manipulated the system or fought for custody just to avoid paying child support. These biases can make single fathers feel like they are under constant scrutiny, forced to justify their parenting role in a way that single mothers are not. This stigma also affects their social lives. Many single fathers find that dating becomes more complicated due to these stereotypes. Women they meet may question why they have full custody, assuming there is some dark backstory. Others may hesitate to get involved, fearing that dating a single dad means taking on an unwanted parenting role. Breaking the Cycle: Changing the Narrative Around Single Fathers The stereotypes surrounding single fathers don’t just hurt them; they also impact their children. When society assumes that fathers are less capable caregivers or views them as an anomaly, it sends a message to their children that something is “wrong” with their family dynamic. Kids of single fathers may internalize these messages, feeling as though they are missing out on a “normal” upbringing simply because their dad is the one raising them. To change this narrative, society needs to broaden its understanding of what good parenting looks like. Fathers should not have to prove themselves more than mothers do, nor should they be treated as though they are exceptions to the rule. Recognizing single fathers as just as competent and loving as single mothers can help break down these harmful stereotypes and create a more supportive environment for all parents. Single fatherhood is not a sign of failure, nor is it an anomaly that should be treated with suspicion. It is simply another form of parenting, one that deserves recognition, respect, and the same level of support that single mothers receive. By challenging these hidden stereotypes, we can help ensure that single fathers no longer feel like they are constantly fighting against outdated societal biases and instead feel empowered in their role as
Written by Ananya
Retiring is often seen as a time of freedom a period to relax, travel, and enjoy life after decades of hard work. However, for many, the reality of retirement is not as uplifting as anticipated. The transition from a structured work life to an unstructured routine can leave retirees feeling uncertain, unproductive, and disconnected. The challenges of adjusting to this new phase of life are not always immediately apparent, but they can be deeply impactful. One of the most significant struggles retirees face is the loss of identity. For many, their careers have been a defining feature of their lives. The daily routine, the pressure to succeed, and the sense of accomplishment that comes with career milestones provide a structure and sense of purpose. Without that, many retirees find themselves struggling to fill the void that their work once occupied. The sudden lack of routine and purpose can lead to feelings of aimlessness, and it’s not uncommon for people to question their worth and relevance in the absence of their professional role. Another challenge often arises in the realm of family dynamics. As children grow older and become more independent, retirees may find that their roles within the family change as well. The children who once needed their parents for guidance and support are now forging their own paths. The house that was once filled with the noise of a young family might now feel quieter, with adult children visiting less frequently or becoming absorbed in their own lives. This shift can create feelings of isolation and loneliness. The transition from being an active, central figure in the family to one that feels peripheral can be a painful adjustment. For many retirees, it’s not just about redefining their role within their family, but also how to remain relevant and engaged in the world. It can be a tough pill to swallow when the skills, expertise, and energy that were once so valued seem to fade into the background. Many retirees grapple with finding new ways to contribute, whether to their community, family, or personal growth. The idea of pursuing a new goal be it learning a new skill, going back to school, or starting a hobby can be intimidating. There’s a fear of not measuring up to younger generations or the uncertainty of whether they can keep up. However, overcoming these challenges is possible with a willingness to embrace change and take active steps toward reinvention. One of the most powerful ways to regain a sense of purpose is through education. Enrolling in a class, pursuing a new area of interest, or even returning to school can provide retirees with the intellectual stimulation they may have longed for. The feeling of accomplishment that comes from learning something new or earning a degree can rekindle a sense of purpose and give a much-needed boost to one’s self-esteem. At the same time, reconnecting with family members can help restore a sense of belonging. It’s important to recognize that children especially adult children still value their parents’ presence, albeit in a different way. While they may not need as much guidance, offering emotional support, advice when asked, or simply spending quality time with them can strengthen family bonds. It’s also crucial to give them the space to grow, while still showing genuine interest in their lives. Pursuing personal passions and hobbies can also help redefine one’s sense of self after retirement. Whether it’s picking up an old hobby, traveling, volunteering, or pursuing a creative endeavor, having activities that bring joy and fulfillment can replace the void left by the end of one’s career. It’s important to remember that retirement isn’t about going backward to a former version of life it’s about moving forward and building a new chapter that allows for personal growth, new experiences, and continued contribution to one’s family and community. In the end, retirement doesn’t have to be a time of loss or stagnation. It can be a period of reinvention and self-discovery. By embracing new opportunities, connecting with loved ones, and pursuing passions, retirees can rediscover purpose and fulfillment in this new phase of life. While the transition may be difficult, it’s possible to emerge from it stronger, more connected, and more engaged in the world around you. The retirement journey may be challenging, but it also holds the potential for new and rewarding experiences. For more stories subscribe to foramz.com
Written by Grace
Imagine feeling so invisible, so lost, that you begin to question if anyone would even notice if you were gone. For 16-year-old Maya, this was her everyday reality. The constant pressure from school, the overwhelming loneliness, and the haunting feeling of being trapped each day felt like a silent battle. Maya had always been the quiet, creative type, but behind her calm demeanor was a storm she didn’t know how to fight. The pressure from school was suffocating. Her grades were falling, her friends seemed to be moving on with their lives, and her family’s expectations felt like an impossible mountain to climb. Every day, she felt like she was losing herself just a little bit more. It wasn’t just about school. It was the loneliness—the kind of loneliness that doesn’t go away even when you’re surrounded by people. Maya couldn’t talk to her friends because she didn’t know how to explain the suffocating sadness she was feeling. She didn’t want to burden her parents, who were already stressed with their own lives. So, Maya did what many teens do when they feel like no one’s listening: she bottled it all up. It wasn’t until one afternoon, when the weight of it all became too much, that Maya reached a breaking point. She found herself staring at the edge, considering whether it would just be easier to end the pain. The thoughts were loud, persistent, and terrifying. But then, something happened. It was a message. A simple “Hey, you good?” from her best friend, Riya. At first, Maya didn’t know how to respond. She hadn’t been answering calls or texts much, but for some reason, this one felt different. It wasn’t just a “Hey, what’s up?” it was a genuine check-in, an open door that Maya didn’t even realize she needed. Riya wasn’t trying to fix anything and wasn’t offering unsolicited advice. She didn’t even push Maya to talk. She just said, “I’m here for you. Whenever you’re ready to talk, I’ll listen.” A few days later, Maya finally took the first step. She reached out to her school counselor. It wasn’t easy. It took every ounce of courage she had left, but walking into that counselor’s office marked the beginning of her healing. That was the moment things began to shift for Maya. She didn’t open up right away, but that message planted a seed of hope. Someone cared. Someone noticed. Maybe it was worth sticking around to see what could happen next. Over time, therapy helped Maya untangle the mess in her mind. She learned coping mechanisms for the stress, the pressure, and the anxiety. It wasn’t a magic fix some days were still hard but she felt stronger. And through therapy, she discovered something that truly began to save her: her passion for painting. Painting had always been an escape, but Maya never thought of it as something she could rely on for healing. She started sketching again just little things at first, but they gave her a sense of peace. Over time, those little sketches turned into full paintings, each one more vibrant and expressive than the last. She painted her anger, her sadness, and eventually, her joy. Her canvas became a place where she could let it all out with no judgment, no expectations, just her, the brush, and the colors. Maya’s journey wasn’t perfect, but it was hers. She found hope in the smallest of things: a message from a friend, the courage to ask for help, and the power of self-expression through art. And now? Maya knows that even in the darkest times, there is a way back. She’s still learning, still healing, but she no longer feels trapped in a world where there’s no way out. To anyone reading this, remember this: You are never alone. There is always a way through, even when there isn’t. Whether it’s a friend reaching out or a counselor offering guidance sometimes, all it takes is a single step toward hope to change everything. If Maya could find light in the darkness, so can you. Keep reading foramz for your daily dose of emotional support.
Written by Grace
Retirement. For years, it feels rewarding for all the hard work, sleepless nights, and decades of dedication – almost like a far-off fantasy. Relaxing, spending time with family, traveling, and waking up without an alarm sounds perfect. But what happens when that day finally arrives? Instead of peace, you get met with an uncomfortable sense of emptiness. Nobody talks about the hidden challenges that accompany retirement. The ones that sneak in slowly and manage to alter your golden years to something you never fantasized about. Let’s discuss the problems The Loss of Identity For decades, your job wasn’t merely a means of making money – it was a core part of your identity. But once retirement hits, that title vanishes. All of a sudden, you are just, well…you, and that’s quite scary. People stop asking for your advice, you’re no longer included in decisions, and the skills you once prided yourself on? They start feeling irrelevant. You might even find yourself wondering, Who am I without my job? It’s a painful realization, and it doesn’t go away overnight. The Dagger of Loneliness Even on the craziest days at work, there was always someone to talk to a colleague, a junior, a client, or even a coffee machine buddy. Retirement, however, takes away that daily social interaction. Suddenly, the house feels quieter. The phone rings less. Friends, busy with their own lives, seem distant. Well, at least family is available, but they have their schedules. Your children are balancing work and raising a family, your spouse (if you have one) might not empathize with your situation entirely, and Making new friends at this age? Well, it’s harder than it sounds. Loneliness creeps in, bringing along its best friend depression. The Financial Reality Check No matter how much you save, retirement often feels like a financial rollercoaster. The steady paycheck is gone, but the expenses? They don’t retire. Medical bills, house maintenance, unexpected emergencies—money suddenly feels fragile. And if you didn’t plan well or circumstances beyond your control drained your savings, the stress multiplies. Dependence on family, cutting down on long-cherished luxuries, or even considering a part-time job after retirement none of this feels good. The financial anxiety can be overwhelming, making every rupee spent like a ticking clock. The Health Decline Age catches up, no matter how healthy you were before retirement. The body slows down, minor aches turn into chronic pains, and medical check-ups become a regular part of life. Suddenly, you’re dealing with things like high blood pressure, joint pains, or worse, serious illnesses that demand constant attention. But it’s not just physical health mental health takes a hit too. Anxiety, depression, and memory issues can start showing up, making the post-retirement phase even tougher. And the worst part? Many suffer in silence, afraid to burden their loved ones with their struggles. The Feeling of Being Unwanted One of the hardest things about retirement is the unspoken truth society moves on. The workplace finds your replacement, younger generations take over, and suddenly, the wisdom and experience you spent years gathering seem to be… forgotten. You may feel like you’re just “there” in family gatherings, no longer the decision-maker or the go-to person for advice. The feeling of being sidelined, ignored, or simply not needed can be heartbreaking. And when you’re constantly reminded that the world is moving forward without you, it’s easy to feel invisible. The Absence of Purpose Work gave you a reason to wake up every morning. Deadlines, projects, and goals each day had a structure. But post-retirement? The days are long, and without a plan, they start feeling meaningless. Sure, hobbies sound great in theory, but not everyone finds fulfillment in gardening or reading. And if you’ve spent your entire life focused on work, shifting to life without deadlines can feel like being lost in an endless void. Many retirees wake up with no idea what to do, and that emptiness can be suffocating. Relationship Changes Retirement doesn’t just affect you it changes your relationships too. Spouses who once had their own space suddenly find themselves together 24/7, leading to unexpected tensions. Friendships can fade, especially if they are mostly tied to work. Even relationships with children shift, sometimes bringing a painful realization that you no longer play as big a role in their lives. These changes can feel like small heartbreaks, piling up over time, leaving you wondering if things will ever feel “normal” again. Final Thoughts Retirement is painted as a phase of relaxation and happiness, but for many, it’s a time of deep emotional and psychological struggle. These problems aren’t just “phases” they’re real, painful, and often ignored. In the next part, we’ll talk about ways to navigate this challenging time. But for now, if any of this resonates with you, just know you’re not alone. And your feelings? They’re valid. Keep reading foramz for your daily dose of emotional support.
Written by Grace
If you’ve made it this far, you know the weight of what we’re talking about. Teenager suicide isn’t just another issue it’s a silent storm destroying lives before they even have a chance to bloom. And the scariest part? Most of us don’t see it coming. But here’s the thing: We can change that. We can be the difference between life and death for someone struggling. We can’t turn back time for those we’ve lost, but we can make sure fewer lives are stolen by this darkness. So let’s talk about the solutions not vague ideas, but real, actionable ways to help teens step away from the edge. Creating a Safe Space: Let Them Be Heard Imagine screaming in a room full of people, yet no one turns around. That’s how many struggling teens feel. They don’t need lectures, judgments, or forced positivity they need to be heard. So, the next time a teen opens up, listen listen. Let them talk without interrupting, without offering a quick fix. Sometimes, just having someone acknowledge their pain can be the first step toward healing. And if they’re silent? Pay attention to the unspoken words the withdrawn behavior, the forced smiles, and the sudden change in habits. A simple“Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve been feeling off lately. Do you want to talk?” can open a door they thought was locked forever. Redefining Success: More Than Just Grades For far too long, we’ve told our teens that their worth is measured in report cards and college acceptances. But is a straight-A report worth a life lost? Parents, teachers, and society need to rewrite the narrative. Success isn’t just about being top of the class it’s about happiness, balance, and self-worth. Instead of asking, “Why didn’t you score higher?” ask, “Are you happy with what you’re doing?” Encourage them to pursue what truly excites them, even if it’s not a traditional path. Let’s show them that life isn’t just about surviving under pressure it’s about living. Social Media Detox: Separating Real from Fake Social media isn’t the enemy, but the illusion of perfection it creates is. Teens need to understand that what they see online isn’t real it’s a filtered, polished version of reality. Encourage digital detoxes, set boundaries, and most importantly, teach them how to use social media without being used by it. Create conversations like: “Do you think their life is really that perfect?”“What do you love about yourself outside of what people see online?” Helping them build self-worth beyond likes and comments can break the toxic cycle of comparison. Breaking the Stigma Why is it normal to seek help for a broken arm but not a broken mind? Mental health should be a regular part of school curriculums, family discussions, and social conversations. We need to normalize therapy, teach coping strategies, and encourage open conversations without fear of judgment. Instead of dismissing their struggles with“It’s just a phase”, let’s say, “I’m here for you, and I believe what you’re feeling is real.” If a teen is hesitant about therapy, remind them: It’s not about being “weak” or “crazy.” It’s about understanding themselves better. And that is strength. Real Connection: Quality Over Quantity Hundreds of online friends mean nothing if there’s no one to turn to in real life. We need to teach teens the value of real connections the ones that exist beyond screens and text messages. Encourage family dinners without phones, weekend activities that don’t involve WiFi, and deep conversations that don’t start with,“How was school?” but instead, “What made you smile today?” Building real relationships ensures they have a support system strong enough to pull them back when they’re drowning. Encouraging Self-Expression Instead of pushing them toward conventional achievements, ask:“What makes you feel alive?” And then, let them do it without judgment. Sometimes, words fail. That’s why self-expression is crucial. Music, art, journaling, sports whatever allows them to pour out emotions without pressure. A teenager who has an outlet for their emotions is less likely to let them fester into self-destruction. Recognizing the Signs & Acting Fast Suicide rarely happens without warning it’s just that we often miss the signs. Some red flags to watch for: If you notice these signs, don’t wait. Ask directly: “Are you thinking about hurting yourself?” It’s a myth that talking about suicide plants the idea in someone’s head—on the contrary, it shows them they’re not alone. If they say yes, take it seriously. Remove access to anything dangerous, get professional help, and most importantly, remind them: “You are not alone. We’ll get through this together.” A Simple “I’m Here” Can Save a Life Sometimes, we overcomplicate things. But the truth is, even the smallest gestures can pull someone back from the edge. A message saying, “Thinking of you today,” a check-in call out of nowhere these are lifelines. You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to show up. Be there. Because in the darkest moments, knowing someone cares can make all the difference. Hope is Stronger Than Darkness Teenage suicide isn’t an unsolvable problem. It’s preventable. But it starts with us choosing to see, choosing to listen, choosing to act. So, as you finish reading this, ask yourself:Who needs to hear “I’m here for you” today? Because sometimes, that’s all it takes to save a life. Keep reading Foramz for your daily dose of your moral support.
Written by Mira
Last week we talked about the issues youth might be facing. The reasons, hurdles, and situations that might have led them to resort to bad habits like vaping and cigarettes. Youth forms a large part of our society, and it’s sad that a large part. of our society is engaged in negative activities. To find a possible solution to this social issue, it is important to address the mental state of the budding minds. We nee to understand their thought process and not judge them based on their bad behavior. In the last blog, we discussed how loneliness is the key reason for the youth’s choice of vaping and smoking. This is Foramz and we will discuss how we can create a positive environment for them and help them foster healthy habits. If you are reading this, and are feeling alone, trust me you are not alone. In this span of age, we call “youth” generally goes through the phase and it is completely normal. Vaping and smoking might feel like a quick escape, but in the long run, it will be beneficial to resort to healthy coping systems. 1. Build Deep and Meaningful Connections Loneliness often comes through a lack of genuine relationships with people loneliness often comes from a lack of genuine relationships rather than just the absence of people around us. One way to counteract this is by actively working on building friendly relationships. Start by reaching out to people you already know, such as family members, classmates, or old friends. A simple message or check-in can catch up on relationships and remind you that you are not alone. Additionally, stepping outside of your comfort zone and engaging in social activities can help. You can join a sports club, or sports teams or enroll in a hobby class that you like. Engaging in activities you like releases oxytocin levels. This will help you connect with like-minded people which will help foster a feeling of belonging. It might sound difficult at first, but consistent effort in socializing helps build familiarity and friendships over time. 2. Develop Emotional Resilience and Self-Awareness Understanding and tipping into your emotions is very crucial. Only you can know the true reason for your sadness. Understanding your emotions and finding healthy ways to process them is crucial in overcoming loneliness. Instead of bottling up emotions or masking them behind harmful habits, try engaging in activities that allow self-expression. Engaging in Journaling, painting, or playing music can be powerful tools for self-reflection and emotional release. Mindfulness and meditation can also help you stay present and reduce negative self-talk, making it easier to accept and navigate feelings of loneliness. Learning to be comfortable with solitude and enjoying your own company is just as important as building relationships with others. Once you learn that you are your best friend nothing else will be able to bind you in its cage. 3. Engage in Physical Activities to Improve Mental Health Exercise has been scientifically proven to boost mental well-being by releasing endorphins, which act as natural mood enhancers. Engaging in sports, yoga, or even daily walks can significantly reduce stress and feelings of loneliness. Physical activity also provides opportunities to meet new people and form social bonds through group workouts, dance classes, or recreational sports leagues. Moreover, focusing on fitness goals can shift your attention away from negative habits like smoking or vaping, replacing them with healthier coping mechanisms. 4. Reduce Social Media Dependency and Increase Real-Life Interactions Social media mostly amplifies loneliness rather than eliminating it, for it creates unhealthy comparisons by setting unrealistic portrayals of people’s lives. Making a huge difference in how you feel is a matter of cutting down on screen time and focusing on real-world connections. Set specific time limits for your social media usage and engage in offline activities like reading, outdoor hobbies, or in-person meetups with friends. Face-to-face contact will help build deeper emotional ties and give one the support often missing in digital interactions. The more present one is in their moment and engaging with the people around them, the less they will feel lonely. 5. Replace Smoking and Vaping with Positive Coping Mechanisms If it has become a habit to vape or smoke, it is imperative to replace those habits with healthy coping mechanisms. Identify what triggers your desire whether due to stress, boredom, or social pressure-and find alternative methods to handle the situation. Manage cravings through deep breathing exercises, sucking on chewing gum, or using a stress ball. Distractions in the form of an instrument, crafting, or gardening can be both distracting and fulfilling. Sometimes, talking with a trusted friend, family member, or counselor may also prove helpful in quitting. There are professional quit-smoking programs and mobile applications that have been designed to monitor progress and maintain motivation. The process of breaking this habit involves more than stopping; it requires replacing the bad habit with more positive and enduring coping strategies. 6. Get Help or Guidance When Needed Loneliness and addictive behavior often become so unmanageable that they can’t be managed by an individual. Talking to a therapist, school counselor, or support group can provide much-needed emotional support to help them through these changes. Professional guidance can offer a personal strategy or coping mechanism best suited to a particular situation. If you find that your loneliness or vaping has been severely impairing your mental health, there is no harm in contacting some helplines or community groups for healing purposes. Surround yourself with positivity and build strong support systems for yourself, as these will really help you during your journey through loneliness and other unhealthy habits. Little by little, you could begin to feel better about how you think, as well as live a more balanced life, through these adjustments. Change takes time, and each step leads you closer to a more satisfied and connected life. For your daily dose of moral support keep reading Foramz.com.
Written by Grace
Do you remember being a teenager? Those years when everything felt like the end of the world, yet we had dreams as big as the sky? But for today’s teens, those dreams are often clouded by a darkness that most of us fail to see. This isn’t just about teenage rebellion or mood swings. It’s a silent cry for help that we, as a society, are not hearing loud enough. Let’s peel back the layers and talk about the problems raw, unfiltered, and heartbreaking. The Crushing Weight of Expectations Everywhere you look, a teenager is trying to live up to someone else’s expectations. Parents, schools, and society all want them to excel, to be perfect. “Why aren’t you getting A+ grades like Sharma Ji’s son?” “You need to get into a top college!” These are phrases many teens hear repeatedly. The result? A suffocating fear of failure. Imagine being 16 and feeling like you’ve let the world down because you didn’t top an exam. The pressure builds until unbearable, leaving with one haunting question: What’s the point? The Social Media Trap For teenagers, social media is more than just a platform it’s their world. A place where likes and comments determine self-worth, where everyone’s life seems perfect except their own. The constant comparison is like a dagger to their self-esteem. “She’s prettier,” “He’s more popular,” “Why can’t I look like that?” The curated perfection they scroll through daily makes them question their value. And let’s not forget cyberbullying a silent predator that attacks them in the safety of their bedrooms, making them feel isolated and unworthy. The Loneliness Epidemic In a world more connected than ever, why do so many teens feel so alone? Despite hundreds of virtual “friends,” many lack real emotional connections. They bottle up their feelings, thinking no one will understand or care. Sometimes, they even drop subtle hints, hoping someone will notice. But when those hints go unnoticed, the loneliness deepens. It’s a loneliness that whispers lies like, Nobody would miss me if I were gone. The Taboo Around Mental Health If a teen breaks a bone, everyone rushes to help. But if they’re battling depression or anxiety? Silence. Mental health is still a taboo, especially in many families. Teens are often dismissed with phrases like, “You’re just being dramatic,” or “It’s all in your head.” This invalidation pushes them further into their shells. They start believing that their struggles aren’t real or important enough to be addressed. And the stigma? It’s like carrying an invisible weight that gets heavier each day. The Identity Crisis Teenage years are a time of self-discovery, but for many, it’s a journey filled with confusion and pain. Questions about gender, and identity can lead to internal battles. For some, coming out or simply being themselves feels impossible in a world that can be cruel and judgmental. They fear rejection, bullying, or worse, abandonment by the people they love the most. This fear often spirals into self-loathing, leaving them trapped in their minds. The Unspoken Trauma Not all scars are visible. Many teens carry the burden of trauma abuse, neglect, and loss. These experiences shape their worldview, often leaving them feeling broken and unworthy. But here’s the thing about trauma: it doesn’t go away on its own. It festers, silently affecting their thoughts and actions. Some try to numb the pain through harmful behaviors, while others feel it’s easier to end the pain altogether. The Academic Overload Imagine waking up at 6 a.m., spending hours at school, then heading straight to tuition, only to come home and finish a pile of homework. For many teens, this is their daily reality. The constant cycle of studying, competing, and performing leaves no room for rest or joy. They feel like robots programmed to succeed, but at what cost? Their dreams? Their happiness? Their lives? The Fear of Judgment “Don’t cry. People will think you’re weak.” “Boys don’t get depressed.” “Girls are too emotional.” Society’s stereotypes and judgments make it nearly impossible for teens to express their feelings openly. They fear being labeled or misunderstood, so they hide their pain behind forced smiles and fake laughter. But behind closed doors, the weight of unspoken words becomes too heavy. The Misunderstanding of ‘Help’ Sometimes, when teens muster the courage to seek help, they’re met with misguided responses. “Just think positive.” “Go for a walk; you’ll feel better.” While well-intentioned, these statements trivialize their struggles. For a teen battling suicidal thoughts, these words feel like yet another reminder that nobody truly understands. A Silent Epidemic The scariest part? Many teens show no outward signs of distress. They laugh, they joke, and they go about their day, masking their pain so well that even their closest friends and family don’t suspect a thing. Until one day, they’re gone. And everyone is left wondering, How did we miss the signs? Dear reader, these are the harsh realities our teenagers face every day. Problems that are invisible to the naked eye but devastatingly real. It’s a silent epidemic that’s claiming lives, and the silence around it is deafening. As you finish reading this, take a moment to reflect. Think about the teens in your life. Are they okay? Truly okay? Because sometimes, the ones who say they’re fine are the ones who need us the most. Keep reading Foramz for your daily dose of your moral support.
Written by Ananya
Partnership and Fatherhood are one of the most essential and defining roles in a man’s life. Partnership and Fatherhood come with joy but also with a set of responsibilities that can be emotionally taxing, in this episode, we delve into the complexities of the emotional presence of a man’s role in a relationship, which society expects to fulfill, even if they might thrive which can be extremely stressful whilst pursuing their career, passion, and aspirations and they continue to do so while they start their family entering Fatherhood. Being a supportive partner is one of the most happily fulfilling yet challenging roles a man can undertake. A partnership, whether in marriage or a committed relationship, demands constant effort, understanding, and emotional availability. Yet, societal norms often expect men to excel in this role without openly acknowledging their struggles or vulnerabilities. This emotional tightrope – balancing personal aspirations, family responsibilities, and relationship dynamics—places immense pressure on men, often leading to unspoken conflicts and mental strain. According to Societal Norms, men are never expected to express their vulnerability in front of anyone, but all of us are humans, every human is born with emotions yet not everyone can convey their vulnerability, in this case, since generations there have been certain emotions characterized by a different type of humans for eg: vulnerability and happiness being feminine and being cold and sternness to be masculine, But how long are we going to live by those stereotypes? Although Men are often raised in cultures that emphasize stoicism and emotional self-reliance. Expressing feelings or seeking support is sometimes viewed as a sign of weakness, even in their closest relationship sphere. This cultural baggage makes it challenging for men to navigate the emotional complexities of partnership, where vulnerability and open communication are key. For instance, being emotionally available for a partner who is going through a difficult time can be deeply rewarding but also draining at times. Men often find themselves caught in a cycle of wanting to “fix” problems—a behavior rooted in traditional gender roles when what their partner might need is empathy and understanding. This emotional disconnect can lead to frustration on both sides, as men may feel underappreciated for their efforts, while their partners may feel unheard or misunderstood. The concept of partnership has evolved significantly over the years. Those days have passed by when men were primarily seen as providers, with their roles confined to financial contributions. Today, they are expected to be equal participants in building emotional intimacy, sharing household responsibilities, and raising children. While these changes are positive, they also introduce a new set of expectations that many men feel ill-equipped to meet, because still in most families the upbringing of a male child and a female child is utterly different, so when the conditioning of a male child goes from 0 to partnership where they have to share responsibilities, things get difficult. The pressure to juggle work commitments and partnership responsibilities is another significant challenge. In many households, men still feel the burden of being primary breadwinners, even as gender roles continue to shift. Balancing the demands of a high-stress job with the emotional needs of a partner can lead to feelings of inadequacy and exhaustion. Consider the scenario of a man who spends long hours at work to provide financial stability. By the time he comes home, he may feel drained, leaving little energy for meaningful conversations or quality time with his partner. Over time, this dynamic can create emotional distance, even in a loving relationship. Additionally, modern relationships require a high degree of emotional intelligence, a skill that is not always emphasized in traditional male upbringing. Men are often expected to navigate complex emotions, mediate conflicts, and maintain a sense of calm, all while managing their internal struggles. The lack of societal support or open dialogue about these challenges exacerbates the pressure. One of the most significant hurdles for many men. Fear of judgment or rejection can prevent men from sharing their feelings, leading to misunderstandings and unresolved tensions. Partners might perceive this silence as indifference, further straining the relationship. Encouraging open and honest communication requires a shift in perspective. Men need safe spaces, both within their relationships and in society at large, where they can express their fears, frustrations, and vulnerabilities without fear of being labeled weak or inadequate or made feel vulnerable. This openness fosters deeper emotional connections and strengthens the bond between partners. One of the most overlooked aspects of partnership is self-care. Men often prioritize their partner’s needs and the overall well-being of the relationship over their own mental and emotional health. While this selflessness is commendable, it can lead to burnout and resentment over time if they are not heard out with understanding. To read more subscribe to foramz.com
Written by Mira
Last week we talked about how loneliness in youth can result in habits of smoking and vaping. To get into the root of the issue it is important to understand what leads to the youth’s attention drifting in the direction of such habits. You might have noticed how vaping and smoking have become common among the youth. Whether it’s at a house party, during a break at school, or even scrolling through social media, it’s everywhere. But have you ever wondered why are we turning to these habits? What is it that we are looking for in that puff of cigarette? It’s not always about looking cool or rebelling. For a lot of people, it’s about filling a void—loneliness, stress, or just trying to feel like we belong somewhere. Let us talk about the reasons one by one. The Weight of Loneliness Loneliness is a word that creeps at us. The feeling is not always obvious, but it’s there, creeping in late at night when we’re mindlessly scrolling through Instagram or TikTok. We see everyone else having fun, going to parties, traveling, and living their best lives. “But what about me?” A question that leaves us feeling lonely or in today’s language FOMO, we experience the fear of missing out. We feel left out like we don’t measure up or “fit in.” It’s a terrible feeling, right? And that’s when the idea of a quick escape—a vape pen or cigarette—starts to look tempting. For a moment, it feels like it takes the edge off, like it’s giving you a break from all the noise in your head but tragically, its adding on to that void. Trying to Fit In We’ve all been there—that moment when you’re hanging out with friends, and someone offers you a vape. You don’t really want to, but saying “no” feels impossible. You don’t want to seem lame or risk being left out. It’s tough because fitting in feels so important, the fear of being alone is so prominent that you take a puff. It’s not always about enjoying it; it’s about belonging, even if just for a moment. The Circle of Expectations Life can be stressful, even for youth. Between school, grades, extracurriculars, and trying to figure out what you want to do with your life, it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. In reality, it is not but the age, the surroundings, and societal pressure make us feel that way, which is completely natural. Add in the pressure to have a happening social life, look good, and keep up with everyone else, and it’s enough to make anyone crack. But vaping or smoking might not be the lifeline you are looking for. Vaping or smoking might feel like a way to take a breather, to calm your nerves. But the truth is, that relief doesn’t last. It’s just a temporary band-aid for a much bigger wound. Family and Emotional Struggles In some cases, the problem starts at home. Maybe your parents are too busy to notice what you’re going through, or maybe they just don’t get it. You feel invisible, like no one really understands or cares. Picking up a vape or a cigarette might feel like a way to take control, to do something for yourself. Or maybe it’s a way to say, “Hey, I’m hurting.” But here’s the thing: you’re not invisible, and people do care, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. Things do change. The Hold of Marketing Have you ever noticed how vaping is made to look so cool? Flavors like mango, cotton candy, grapes, and mint—they’re not targeting adults; they’re targeting youth. The ads make it seem harmless, even fun and cool. But the reality is that these companies are selling them intentionally by promoting them as a “safer option” than cigarettes, which is totally a myth. Nicotine is one of the main ingredients in vape. It has harmful chemicals which can cause lung diseases and even cancer. The companies, just want your money. And once you’re hooked, it’s hard to stop. That’s how they win. Don’t let them. You’re Not Alone If you’re reading this and somewhere resonate with it don’t worry you are not alone. There are so many people out there who feel the same way you do. The world can be tough, and it’s okay to struggle. What’s important is that you don’t give up on yourself. You are worth more than a vape pen or cigarette. You’re stronger than you think, and you have an entire life to live full of possibilities. Do not let that temporary escape steal that from you. Stay strong, and remember you’ve got this. Here’s the truth: vaping and smoking won’t fix the loneliness, the stress, or the pressure. They might distract you from the pain for a little while, but in the long run, they’ll only make things harder. Addiction, health problems, guilt—none of that is worth it. So in the next week, we will see in detail how can we healthily cope with these emotions. Because you are not alone. Keep Reading Foramz for you daily dose of moral support.