Written by For many middle-aged women, the concept of invisible labor is an all-encompassing reality that often goes unnoticed, both at home and in the workplace. This labor is not just physical it’s emotional, mental, and spiritual. In the home, women often take on the lion’s share of caregiving, managing households, and tending to the emotional needs of their families. These responsibilities are routinely dismissed or undervalued because they aren’t directly measurable or financially rewarded. But the toll they take is significant. Invisible labor extends beyond the home, too. In the workplace, middle-aged women may be working harder than ever, yet still find themselves sidelined for promotions or leadership roles. The sacrifices they make working late, dealing with office politics, and often being the emotional glue holding together both their families and teams are not always recognized. These efforts become even more invisible as women age. There’s a quiet expectation that, as they grow older, they should gradually become less ambitious and more focused on the needs of others, which creates a deeper sense of marginalization. The burden of invisible labor isn’t just about the workload it’s also about the lack of acknowledgment. The emotional labor of managing relationships, of putting the needs of others before their own, leaves many middle-aged women feeling drained and invisible. This labor, while necessary and often selflessly performed, is rarely validated, which contributes to a sense of deep unfulfillment. It’s a silent struggle, not only because it goes unnoticed but because many women are taught not to expect recognition for their efforts. Struggles with Identity Middle-aged women often grapple with an evolving sense of self, particularly in a society that has historically defined a woman’s value in relation to others. As they age, the shifting dynamics of family, career, and personal health often lead to profound identity struggles. Once-defined roles as a mother, wife, or employee may no longer seem to fit, or may change in ways that leave women feeling disoriented. For many, the loss of youthful appearance can trigger an existential crisis. The society around them often equates beauty with youth, and this external pressure forces middle-aged women to reconsider their value beyond their looks. Their identity, once tied to external approval, begins to unravel, and they may struggle to redefine themselves. This process of reinvention can be both freeing and daunting, as many women face the harsh realization that they have neglected their personal growth in the service of others. Moreover, the passage of time often forces women to confront their life choices dreams unfulfilled, opportunities passed by, and the quiet realization that time is no longer a limitless resource. This can lead to feelings of regret or, conversely, a desire to pursue long-abandoned passions. However, these new aspirations can feel selfish, especially when weighed against years of ingrained responsibility. The conflict between pursuing personal desires and honoring long-held obligations can be overwhelming. For many, identity is also wrapped up in caregiving roles. As children grow older or parents age, middle-aged women face the shift from active parenting to “letting go” while simultaneously stepping into the role of caregiver for elderly parents. This transition can be disorienting as it forces women to redefine themselves once again, constantly negotiating the balance between self-identity and the societal expectations that come with their roles. But there’s hope. While the struggle with identity may be uncomfortable and uncertain, it also offers the opportunity for growth. Many middle-aged women find strength in reclaiming parts of themselves that had been long buried under layers of responsibility. For some, it’s the chance to pursue careers they had set aside, for others, it’s a chance to reconnect with long-neglected hobbies or passions. The process of redefining oneself is not easy, but it’s an essential step toward self-empowerment. For more updates subscribe to foramz.com
Written by Ananya
India, traditionally known for its strong family values and long-lasting marriages, is witnessing a gradual yet notable rise in divorce rates. While the country still maintains a relatively low divorce rate compared to many Western nations, the increase in separations reflects a society in transition where evolving mindsets, growing individualism, and increased awareness are reshaping the institution of marriage. Breaking the Traditional Mold For generations, marriage in India was seen as a lifelong bond, often upheld even in the face of unhappiness or conflict. However, this perception is shifting. Today, personal well-being and emotional fulfillment are becoming more important than merely preserving the sanctity of marriage. Many individuals, particularly in urban areas, are no longer willing to stay in relationships that lack compatibility or respect. Empowered Women, Empowered Choices One of the most significant factors contributing to the rise in divorce cases is the empowerment of women. With better access to education, financial independence, and an increasing awareness of their legal rights, more women are now in a position to make decisions that prioritize their mental, emotional, and physical well-being — even if it means walking away from a marriage. The Role of Legal Reforms Legal reforms have also played a pivotal role. The introduction and simplification of procedures like mutual consent divorce have made it easier for couples to part ways amicably. The judicial system, though still burdened, is slowly becoming more accessible to the common person. Urban Stress and Relationship Strain The pressures of urban living long working hours, stressful jobs, financial instability, and limited quality time with partners often lead to emotional disconnection. The fast-paced lifestyle in cities has been linked to growing dissatisfaction within marriages, further contributing to the increase in divorce filings. Love Marriages Under Pressure Interestingly, a rising number of divorces are being reported from love marriages, where couples choose their own partners. Unlike arranged marriages that often come with strong family backing and societal expectations, love marriages may lack that external cushion, which sometimes leads to friction, especially when the honeymoon phase fades and real-life challenges set in. Urban vs. Rural Divide While divorce rates are increasing across the country, the trend is more evident in urban centers, where liberal social norms and anonymity allow individuals to make bold decisions with less fear of societal judgment. In contrast, rural areas, where conservative values still dominate, witness fewer divorces, though the numbers are slowly climbing there as well. Regional Differences Certain regions, particularly in the North-East, such as Mizoram, report higher divorce rates. Cultural factors, local customs, and differing attitudes toward marriage and separation could be influencing these statistics. Common Grounds for Divorce Couples cite a range of reasons for ending their marriages. These include incompatibility, infidelity, domestic abuse, emotional neglect, and financial troubles. The rise of mental health awareness has also led people to recognize and act upon toxic or unfulfilling relationships. Who’s Initiating the Divorce? Interestingly, more and more women are initiating divorce proceedings. This trend reflects not only changing gender dynamics but also the growing confidence among women to seek freedom from unhappy marriages without the stigma that was once heavily attached to divorce. The increasing divorce rates in India are not merely a sign of broken marriages, they’re a sign of transformation. As society progresses, values evolve, and individuals assert their rights and choices, it’s only natural that the way we view marriage and relationships also changes. While this shift brings its own challenges, it also marks a move toward a more open, honest, and emotionally aware society where people are learning to prioritize their happiness, even if it means walking away. To keep reading, subscribe to foramz.com
Written by Mira
From the moment a beautiful woman steps into a room, all eyes turn to her. Strangers steal glances, some openly stares, some smile, smirk in creepy ways. Some look at them with hungry eyes like a predator. Some make assumptions solely on the looks of the woman. While society glorifies beauty, rarely does it acknowledge the psychological weight that comes with it. Many assume that being naturally attractive is an automatic confidence booster. However, self-confidence is an inner trait that requires self-work, and external validation can often feel more like a burden than an asset. The constant scrutiny that beautiful women face can lead to anxiety, discomfort, and even a sense of alienation. Imagine walking home on a busy street filled with people returning from work–men, women, and children all moving about. Despite the bustling environment, an attractive woman finds herself the subject of unsettling attention. She is scanned from head to toe by creepy stares, making her feel objectified rather than seen as a person. This is a reality many women endure daily, and it creates a sense of vulnerability and unease. This feeling of always being watched by people creates a sense of pressure an expectation to always look perfect act a certain way or live up to ideals projected onto the person. In today’s professional landscape, women continue to break barriers, shatter glass ceilings, and redefine success. However, for women who are perceived as conventionally attractive, the workplace can present a unique set of challenges. While beauty is often celebrated in society, it can also become a double-edged sword in professional settings, leading to biases, stereotypes, and unfair treatment. Women are often objectified as sources of gaining sexual pleasure. Sexual remarks are made on women and rape cases are everyday statistics today. Beyond the workplace, the objectification of women extends into daily life. Women are often viewed as sources of sexual pleasure rather than individuals with dreams, ambitions, and intellect. Sexual remarks, catcalling, and harassment have become normalized to the extent that many women feel unsafe in public spaces. Rape and sexual assault statistics continue to be alarming, highlighting the dangerous consequences of a society that prioritizes physical beauty over personal agency. While beauty is often considered an advantage, it carries its own set of burdens that society seldom acknowledges. The constant scrutiny, the pressure to meet expectations, workplace biases, and the reality of objectification create a challenging experience for many women. It is essential to foster awareness and challenge the cultural norms that perpetuate these struggles. True progress lies in appreciating individuals beyond their physical appearance and creating an environment where women are valued for their talents, intellect, and character rather than just their looks. While beauty is perceived as a blessing, it comes with its own set of woes that society hardly ever considers. The relentless criticism, the burden of expectation, biases in the workplace, and the harsh truth of objectification make it a difficult ride for most women. It is imperative to create awareness and challenge the cultural standards that fuel these challenges. Real progress is finding beauty in individuals beyond their external appearance and cultivating a society in which women are appreciated for their abilities, intellect, and qualities and not necessarily their physical attraction. This is Foramz.com and in the next part, we will be discussing how women face scrutiny under the public eye and are judged.
Written by Ananya
Aging brings with it an inevitable period of reflection and an opportunity for older women to look back on the choices they have made, the paths they have taken, and those they left unexplored. With the passing years, the clarity of hindsight often reveals both the joys and regrets of a life well-lived. For many, this stage of life is a complex mix of nostalgia, wisdom, and an evolving sense of self. While some may dwell on missed opportunities or unfulfilled dreams, others embrace aging as a second chance, a time to reclaim passions, shed societal expectations, and redefine their identity on their terms. Looking Back: Regrets and Realizations Older women often reflect on the sacrifices they made for their families, careers, and social roles. Many dedicated decades to raising children, managing households, and supporting others, often at the expense of their aspirations. The invisible labor they performed work that was often unrecognized and undervalued may leave some feeling a sense of loss or frustration. Yet, despite these emotions, many women find solace in knowing they did their best within the constraints of their circumstances. They recognize that their sacrifices contributed to something larger than themselves, whether it was shaping the lives of their children, making a difference in their communities, or simply keeping a family together during difficult times. This realization helps many older women move beyond regret and embrace gratitude for the life they have lived. At this stage, there is also a newfound sense of freedom. The fears that once held them back—fear of judgment, failure, or not meeting societal expectations—begin to fade. Older women often find themselves less concerned with external validation and more focused on personal fulfillment. They recognize that time is finite and that the remaining years should be spent doing what brings them joy rather than conforming to outdated notions of how they “should” live. Reclaiming Identity and Purpose For many, aging is not about retreating into the background but stepping forward with newfound confidence. Some women use this period to reconnect with long-lost passions, whether it be painting, writing, traveling, or engaging in lifelong learning. Others find fulfillment in activism, fighting for the rights they were once denied. With decades of experience and resilience behind them, they become vocal advocates for gender equality, healthcare access, and the well-being of senior citizens. This reclaiming of agency allows older women to redefine their role in society. They move beyond the traditional roles of caregiver or homemaker and step into spaces where their voices matter. Their stories, wisdom, and lived experiences become sources of inspiration for younger generations. In doing so, they challenge the ageist notion that older women should fade into the background. Instead, they prove that aging can be a powerful time of self-expression, advocacy, and influence. Redefining Relationships and Overcoming Loneliness One of the more challenging aspects of aging is the shift in relationships. Many older women experience the loss of spouses, friends, or family members, leaving them to navigate new forms of loneliness and grief. However, rather than retreating into isolation, many women use this period to rebuild and reshape their social circles. Friendships become more intentional, and many older women seek out connections that are fulfilling and uplifting. They join clubs, participate in community events, or engage in new hobbies that introduce them to like-minded individuals. Some even find companionship in unexpected ways, whether through reconnecting with childhood friends, forming support groups, or embracing new romantic relationships. This shift in relationships also allows older women to focus on self-care in ways they may have neglected earlier in life. The years of prioritizing others often come to an end, making way for a renewed focus on personal well-being. They invest in themselves—whether through fitness, spirituality, mental health, or simply embracing activities that bring them peace. The realization that they are deserving of care, rest, and joy is a powerful transformation. Acceptance, Strength, and Legacy Ultimately, the final stage of life becomes an exercise in acceptance. Older women come to terms with the imperfections of their past, the changes in their present, and the uncertainties of the future. They acknowledge that aging is not just about physical decline but also about emotional and spiritual growth. They learn to let go of regrets and instead focus on what remains within their control—how they choose to spend their remaining years and the legacy they wish to leave behind. For many, this means sharing their wisdom with younger generations, mentoring those who can learn from their experiences. It means embracing change with grace, finding joy in small moments, and continuing to grow as individuals. They recognize that while society may view aging as a period of decline, it is, in many ways, a time of profound transformation. In the end, older women do not merely fade away; they evolve. They shift from being defined by their roles to being defined by their essence—their courage, their wisdom, and their ability to embrace life fully, no matter their age. While the weight of past expectations may never entirely disappear, they learn to carry it differently, with a newfound strength and a deep appreciation for the journey they have traveled. Aging, for many women, is not an ending but a reawakening. It is a time of reflection, yes, but also of reinvention, a time to embrace who they have become, celebrate the life they have lived, and step forward into the future with confidence, dignity, and an unshakable sense of self. To keep reading, subscribe to foramz.com
Written by Ananya
As women age, the invisible labor they carry, which has often gone unnoticed throughout their lives, continues to compound. Now in their later years, older women find that the expectations and responsibilities placed upon them have not only persisted but, in some ways, increased. For many, this ongoing invisible labor is more demanding than ever, yet the recognition and appreciation they deserve remain as elusive as ever. In the home, older women may have seen their children grow and become independent, but the responsibilities of caregiving don’t stop there. Many women take on the role of caregivers for aging spouses, elderly parents, or even grandchildren. This multi-generational caregiving can be emotionally, physically, and financially draining, yet it often goes unacknowledged. Society still seems to believe that older women are simply “supposed” to be there for their families, expected to provide the same emotional labor they’ve always given without question. The invisible nature of this labor leaves these women feeling as though their own needs and desires are secondary if acknowledged at all. Even as women age, the societal expectation that they perform emotional labor without complaint persists. They are the emotional anchors in families, offering support during times of hardship and celebration, tending to the emotional needs of others while silently neglecting their own. The idea of “being the strong one” is romanticized, yet it often leads to isolation, loneliness, and, eventually, burnout. The selflessness expected of older women, especially in their caregiving roles, makes it even more difficult for them to voice their needs or ask for support. The challenge is amplified in the workplace. Older women often find themselves pushed to the margins, sidelined for leadership positions or promotions due to ageist perceptions. The idea that older women are no longer capable of bringing fresh ideas or taking on demanding roles persists, even as they possess a wealth of experience and wisdom. The emotional labor they have provided in their families often spills into the workplace, where they may be seen as the “caretaker” of the office environment. Yet, their skills and contributions are often overshadowed by the younger, more “dynamic” workforce. As women enter their older years, the issues of ageism and gender bias come into play more sharply. The perception that older women are “past their prime” only deepens the sense of invisibility. Society’s obsession with youth and beauty renders older women largely unseen, forcing them to grapple with the notion that they are no longer valued in the same ways they once were. The double burden of gender and age discrimination often leaves them feeling discarded, both in their professional and personal lives. It’s a bitter realization that the qualities they once took pride in nurturing, caregiving, and dedication are now either overlooked or undervalued. This stage of life, where women transition into older age, also brings the inevitable confrontation with mortality. The physical changes that accompany aging slower metabolism, aches, wrinkles, and the subtle yet unmistakable signs of time can serve as constant reminders of their own vulnerability. Yet, even in the face of their physical decline, the demand for invisible labor persists. Older women are expected to maintain their roles as caregivers and emotional supporters, even as their energy wanes. This creates a constant internal struggle between the body’s limitations and the external expectation to continue as before. However, there is an undeniable shift that occurs for many older women as they begin to wrestle with their identity in later life. For some, this period becomes an opportunity for reinvention a time to rediscover aspects of themselves that may have been neglected for decades. With their children grown, their careers winding down, or in some cases, long years of caregiving coming to an end, many older women seize this moment to explore forgotten passions, embrace new hobbies, or begin new careers. The transition can be daunting, as many feel they’ve already sacrificed so much of themselves, but it can also be incredibly empowering. Older women may look back on their life choices with mixed emotions. The passing of time often leads to reflections on dreams left unfulfilled, missed opportunities, or paths not taken. But this can also ignite a sense of freedom a realization that, with age, there is less fear of judgment or societal expectations. The second half of life can offer the chance to prioritize personal happiness and self-discovery in ways that were impossible during the earlier years. Many women embrace this phase as an opportunity to reconnect with their core selves, to reclaim their passions and sense of purpose. For some, this reinvention takes the form of activism, as older women fight for the recognition and rights they have long been denied. They use their voices to speak out on issues like gender equality, healthcare, and the needs of senior citizens. With decades of experience under their belts, they bring a unique and invaluable perspective, yet often ignored. But as they become more vocal, older women find a sense of agency that empowers them to reclaim their place in the world, both in their communities and in society at large. Another critical challenge that comes with aging is the necessity of redefining relationships. As spouses or partners pass away, or as health declines, older women often find themselves navigating new forms of loneliness or grief. But rather than retreating into isolation, many older women use this time to form new connections. They reconnect with old friends, join social groups, or even form new communities centered around shared interests. The focus shifts from caregiving to connection, from invisible labor to self-care, and from self-sacrifice to self-expression. Ultimately, while the invisible labor and identity struggles may never fully disappear, they evolve into a new understanding of the self for many older women. The process of confronting ageism, reclaiming self-worth, and redefining identity becomes not only an act of survival but one of liberation. It is a time of embracing change, accepting imperfection, and rediscovering the joy of self-care and self-empowerment. For
Written by Mira
Last week, we talked about how women experience changes in their lives. The struggles that Middle-Aged women go through during their growth are an untouched topic. There are various stages of change in a growing woman. The biggest transition occurs in the Middle-Age phase. Middle age is often referred to as a bridge between youth and old age. A stage where 2 personalities coincide, bodies transform and the mind is on high alert about the newly coming transformations. For women, this period is typically defined as the years between 40 and 60. Imagine being a mother who has spent all her life looking out for the family and is now feeling isolated as the children have grown up and have to work as it is their time to strive. In this case, these feeling of isolation is heightened by menopause and other factors. In this blog, we will be discussing all such issues that these strong women experience in middle age in detail so we can help understand them better and empathize with their feelings. Emotions all over the place with Menopause Menopause typically occurs after the age of 40. In simple words, menopause is a process where the ovaries stop producing eggs. Due to this biological halt, hormone levels decrease. As hormones are responsible for regulating emotions in our bodies, their sudden decrease results in emotional distress, mood swings, weight gain, and sleep disturbances. On top of this biological outburst, many women go through a transition in life. Middle age coincides with children leaving home for college or careers. While this is a natural phenomenon, women can feel lost and purposeless. After years of comforting, nurturing, teaching, and scolding a child becomes capable of taking an independent step toward their own life and when the child is finally ready a mother may naturally feel lost without the child. This phenomenon is termed “empty nest syndrome” This sudden change in their daily routine leads to a feeling of loneliness which is never really addressed. Naturally obliged to be selfless the middle-aged woman does not think of it as important of an issue to be addressed. But we should know and notice this and lend an ear sometimes. Middle Age is a stage where women often question their own life choices if they have lived up to their potential. Balancing the roles of mother, partner, professional, and individual can create a sense of overwhelm. As a woman feels torn between fulfilling societal expectations and pursuing personal dreams. Always looking out for others, the woman forgets of her aspirations. The Physical Transformation. Physical changes that Middle-Aged women experience are inevitable and distressing, especially in a society that considers the perfect face, skin color, and hourglass body shape as a beauty standard. Menopause brings with it a host of physical symptoms including hot flashes, night sweats, fatigue, and joint pain. These symptoms disrupt their daily routine paired up with the societal pressure of “keeping it together”. No matter what goes inside the body, women are expected to be calm and composed and undertake their routine professional or household tasks smoothly. This is an unseen pressure from societal standards where issues like menopause have not been discussed enough. Many individuals fail to even know about it. Biologically, aging women experience weight gain due to gradual metabolism, hormonal changes, and a decrease in physical activity. This affects their self-esteem, especially in a culture that glorifies slum, youthful figures. With age women face an increased risk of health issue such as osteoporosis, heart disease and breast cancer. Regular health check-ups and preventive care become crucial, but many women neglect their own health due to caregiving responsibilities or financial constraints. Professional Challenges Middle-aged women in the workforce encounter unique challenges. Women in their 40s and 50s often find themselves overlooked for promotions as companies prioritize younger talent under the guise of “fresh ideas.” Their years of experience and wisdom are undervalued and their contributions remain overshadowed by stereotypes that portray middle-aged women as being addicted to technology. For women who took a career break to raise children, re-entering the workplace becomes an uphill battle. The gap in their resumes is often viewed as a liability and they face challenges coping with the evolving job market. Many middle-aged women juggle professional responsibilities with caregiving roles, whether for aging parents or depending on children. Their switch from a strong and bold employee or leader to a gentle caring daughter or mother is commendable. But these switches cause a mental and Physical toll which often leads to burnout. Social Isolation and Loneliness As a woman ages, she loses friends and he social circle shrinks due to various reasons like busy schedules, geographic relocations, or differing life stages. This leads to feelings of isolation and loneliness which is exacerbated by societal invisibility that Middle-Aged women experience. In the Modern world which is obsessed with youth, Middle-aged women often feel ignored. Advertisements, media, and popular culture rarely represent women in this age group, reinforcing that their best years are already behind them. In some cases, age brings strain in marital relationships as couples face midlife crises, empty nests, or financial pressures. Divorce rates are high among middle-aged couples, leaving many women to navigate this phase of life alone. Financial Problems Financial challenges are a significant concern for middle-aged women, particularly for those who took a break from work to focus on families, many women enter middle age with insufficient retirement funds due to career break or lower-paying jobs. This creates anxiety sense of fear about their future. Eventually, this anxiety becomes a full-grown fear of being a burden to their family. Women who rely on their spouses for financial support face vulnerability. This is prevalent in cases of divorce or the death of a partner. Without personal savings or financial literacy, they may struggle to secure their independence. Cultural and Societal Shackles. Cultural norms and societal expectations add another layer of complexity to the lives of middle-aged women. Society expects women